By Steven G. Mehta What Would You Do If.... A party tells you at the beginning of the mediation, my [...]
Did you know that a complete stranger may understand the true intent of your spouse’s messages as much as you? If you are anything like me, having been married for close to 20 years, I sometimes feel that I should be able to understand the intent of my wife’s potentially ambiguous clues as to her wishes. However, research has reaffirmed what most married men jokingly know – spouses don’t have a clue as to what their spouses are saying. So on Valentine's day, talking about marital miscommunications seems like a good idea -- before we get into a "miscommunication."
By Steven G. Mehta As many of you know, I am a member of the International Academy of Mediators -- [...]
By Steven G. Mehta We usually associate flexing your muscles with a show of strength. Sometimes we also associate people [...]
In mediation, there are frequent occasions where a party may feel genuine remorse and apologize for his or her actions. However, in the cynical world of litigation, everyone doubts when the other side acts remorseful. How can you tell when a person genuinely feels remorse? Canadian researchers think they have the answer.
The key to making a smart decision at mediation is to know when to let go and when to push forward – when to settle and when to continue the litigation. This decision, as simple as it sounds is actually very complex.
By Steven G. Mehta The New York Times has reported that former New York Governor has been appointed to mediate [...]
In some sense, mediators are simply messengers in a war of the parties. They send and interpret a message from one side to the other. And we all know sometimes what can happen to the messenger. Well I thought I might briefly look at the origin of the phrase, "Don't shoot [or kill] the messenger."
By Steven G. Mehta Mediators often feel like they have to please everyone. I don't think this is true. I [...]
By the time of mediation or trial, how many times do you think a witness has retold his or her story? Many, I am sure. Each time that story is told, however, new research suggests that the person’s memory is not improved, but instead detrimentally affected.